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Out at dinner this weekend, my husband and I were with a good “couple friends” and the conversation turned to breasts. This happens a lot – usually around “boob o’clock,” as my friends say, which is apparently around 11 p.m. or the third glass of wine, whichever comes first.
The reason this topic comes up a lot is, well, first of all – boobs are everywhere, all the time. Women hang them out these days during everything from a business meeting to Saturday shopping with the kids. And trust me, if I had them, I would hang them out, too.
So back to our conversation – I’m not really sure exactly how it came about but we started discussing my deep, not-so-secret desire for a more ample bosom and the conversation turned to plastic surgery. My friends are of the “why not if it makes you happy” line while my husband is “I don’t think it will really make you happy” and “why do you need other men to look at you” school of thought.
We have a lot of back and forths on this subject – often and, while I joke – too much – about getting the surgery, deep down I think my husband is right. I would love – love – love to have some cleavage but in my heart I can’t figure out why. As the male-half of our couple friend said,
“If it makes you happy, do it – I just don’t understand why you need them. You are a successful, smart and good looking woman, who cares about boobs?”
To which I said,
“YOU guys do… all the time, everywhere, you are always talking about them, looking at them (online and off) and obsessing over them.” Case in point – from Twitter today.
But you know what – he’s right – and so is my husband. Deep down I hate myself for not loving myself more the way I am. Who cares about bigger boobs? What do I care that men obsess over them? Why do I have this underlying desire for getting them? Will they enhance my life? Will they make me more confident and happy?
The honest truth is I don’t know. I have a full life – successful career, motherhood, health, family, friends, etc. So why does my chest size matter??
What do you think – do Wicked Smart Women get boob jobs?
Early this morning, USA Today published an article about the continuing epidemic of AIDS. Did you know that “an estimated 33.2 million people worldwide live with HIV. In 2007, 2.5 million have become infected, and 2.1 million have died of AIDS, according to a United Nations report released last week.” And, that “the rate of HIV/AIDS diagnoses for black women is 20 times the rate for white women.”
W-O-W. Parents, talk to your teens. Put condoms in a bowl by the car keys. Don’t be naive. Single adults – wear condoms and be choosy about how many partners you have. Married adults – be faithful and if you aren’t WEAR CONDOMS.
Everyone – support World AIDS Day on Saturday, December 1. Fight the fight – it affects us all.
I’m happy to report that my father just got a clean bill of health after battling prostate cancer. It’s made me think – as these situations always do – that you just never know what’s coming. And as I get older – sadly – I’ve got to get smarter about my health. I’ve always been healthy, naturally thin and pretty good about not eating too much junk (although having children in the house definitely makes that harder), but I could be much, much better.
Self Magazine outlines a few tips on what to eat, do (and not do) to prevent cancer
Berries and fruits, fine. But damn if alcohol doesn’t increase just about every type of cancer there is! And of course we are all supposed to exercise more. Too bad lifting a glass of red wine doesn’t count.
I recently read an excerpt from Amy Silverstein’s Sick Girl, a new book about the harsher realities of post-transplant life.
Just when you think you are having a bad day, a book like this comes along and smacks you right back into reality. Ms. Silverstein’s harrowing account of her experiences as a heart transplant patient – at the still-innocent age of 25 – is good reminder to count your blessings. She describes painful after painful procedure and what it feels like to walk around with someone else’s heart in your chest – most notably how the brain works with the never-to-be-connected again nerve endings. She brilliantly – and painfully – outlines her body’s reaction to “the war of chemicals” she must take like clockwork no matter what she’s doing – even the celebration of her wedding must be paused for consumption.
Ms. Silverstein talks about what it’s like to forever walk around with the label of “sick girl” and how her entire life is shaped around this experience. But perhaps most surprising – to those of us who would imagine being a transplant recipient is a good thing – is how she describes a life full of “sick-girl kind of exhaustion.” The kind of exhaustion that makes you want to take your own life:
“There is no point at which, statistically speaking, a heart-transplant patient is on safer ground, because from the moment a donor heart begins to beat in a foreign chest, the immune system begins to destroy it.”
I can’t imagine living life that way. But Amy, keep living it. Stay strong – we’re glad “you’ll try” and that you’re here to share your experiences.
For more, read more reviews, the excerpt from US News & World Report or buy the book.
US News & World Report has a special how-to-video for medical screenings at every age. Be smart and take care of yourself.
Speaking of inner whores, the holiday catalog from Victoria’s Secret arrived this week (and I’ll get about 100 more between now and the New Year; they waste a lot of trees). Aside from wondering who the hell ever buys the Fantasy Bra (which seems rather cheap this year @ $300.00 U.S.; in the past they’ve been millions of dollars – no kidding), it reminded me of another thing that Wicked Smart Women know…
You don’t actually wear the clothes from Victoria’s Secret unless you “work” in Vegas. I’m serious.
Some examples of clothes that simply don’t translate to good looks for women who weigh more than 85 lbs and live in the real world (where photo editors can’t make our thighs so teeny tiny):
Exhibit A
Great for the bedroom perhaps, if you’re into that sort of thing. Running to the grocery store? Not so much.
Exhibit B
Um, yeah, girls…this is hot but it’s not office attire, no matter what Vicki tells you.
Exhibit C
Okay just…. no….no…..no. I don’t care how hot you are this will ruin it.
Exhibit D
I’m pretty sure no one should wear this – ever.
Okay, realistically some of their sweaters and what not are cute and they have improved their clothing line. But remember Wicked Smart Women – knowing what looks good on you and having good taste is sexy, too.
A lot of wicked smart women seem to use Halloween parties as an excuse to let out their inner whore…. hmmmmmmm….
<<< Okay these are not necessarily “smart” women (exception: Christina) but they do represent popular costume choices!
I know they’re out there – women who toil daily over work, children, husbands, parents, closets and more. You wish you had more time for the spa, reading or relaxing but you’re lucky if you get out of the house in the morning without oatmeal on your suit, or make it home in time to decompress and hang with the kids/hubby/dogs/cats/horses before bedtime. You miss the days when $1 pitcher night was a big deal even though you truly enjoy your “grown up” success.
Wicked Smart Women are always balancing. Email me at wickedsmartwoman@gmail.com or http://twitter.com/wickedsmartwoma and tell me if:
1) You are a Wicked Smart Woman – what are your best qualities?
2) You know a Wicked Smart Woman – why do you think she’s Wicked Smart? Is she gorgeous yet brilliant, funny but commanding, sexy but the boss?
3) You have opinions on what makes a Woman Wicked Smart - what attributes would make you look and say, “Wow, she’s Wicked Smart!”
Let me know and if you’d like to be featured in a Q&A on the site.
I’m sure this is a joke – and it’s old news but showed up on Twitter today – so nonetheless…what the hell is in the drinking water lately? You saw my post yesterday about the crazy homemaking college courses and Southern Baptist bullshit that women should “bow graciously to their husband’s leadership.” Now this?! It’s a joke, right? If this girl is real …. with those writing “talents” I don’t think she needs to worry about college.
Anyone ever figure the mystery out?
http://www.poopinashoe.com/viewthread.php?threadid=6420&p=2#p52909
http://www.pnwriders.com/forum/archive/index.php/t-22736.html
A lot of things – send me what you think a Wicked Smart Woman is made of and I will put them on my blog!
- Hates to say “no,” – but will
- Works because she wants to; not because she “has” to
- Takes care of herself first – it makes for a better caretaker for others
- Looks at the price tag…and buys it anyway
- Eats dessert
- Marries for love despite the divorce rate
- Isn’t afraid to be single
- Knows a lot of great wines for less than $10.00 a bottle
- Knows a good financial planner who’s not her spouse
- Brings home the bacon, fries it up in a pan and never lets you forget she’s a (working) woman
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